怕当父亲 却作了好爸爸
我父亲是一名德士司机，他是一个很乐观的人，所以他对我们5个孩子，在学业上也没有什么要求，只要我们能够及格。他基本上可算是一个疼爱孩子的父亲。
我和我和我父亲的关系开始疏离，是在我中学毕业之后，因为成绩不好，出去工作开始交上损友而染上毒品，以致很少和他有真正的交谈，然后加上之后多次的进出监狱，关系就更加的冷淡了。
现在回想，我的父亲其实是非常爱我的，虽然有一段时间我们的关系很疏离。因为我记得他曾经对我说过一句话: '孩子你要过怎么样的生活，你自己选择，但是我们家的大门，永远为你打开。' 现在我更加明白这句话，因为我也当了父亲，原来不管孩子多烂多坏，为父的永远欢迎孩子回家，永远会接纳自己的孩子。
过去我根本没想过要结婚，所以从来没有想过自己会当父亲。曾经我对小孩子是没有什么感觉的，不会讨厌，也不会喜欢。但是觉得要养育孩子是一件很麻烦的事，而且责任非常重大。
但是当了父亲才知道喂奶其实是很幸福的事，看见自己的孩子饱足的样子，心里是很有满足感的。
因为我过去曾多次进出监狱，所以我以为我已是一个'处惊不变'的人，面对任何的事物，我都无需多想并不会着急。
但是当我遭遇我的小女儿，被医生确定将会一生不良于行，不是需要坐轮椅，就是要靠拐杖行走的时候，我很自然的会去设想，我需要一直为他推轮椅吗？还是我可以为他做一些更好的安排。就是我开始会去为孩子的将来着想。
成为了父亲之后我才知道原来孩子有问题，父亲是不会袖手旁观的，而且还会要去为孩子解决问题，为孩子找出路。
当了父亲，我终于明白为父的心肠就是，无论任何的事物都会为孩子着想，要给孩子最好的。 而曾经以为做爸爸是很麻烦的事，但是主耶稣完全改变了我的想法，因为很多问题在人是找不到出路的，但是因为主耶稣是开道路的神，所有的困境在神都是有出路的! 所以现在我在基督里，是一名很轻省的父亲。
Fear of being a father but becomes a good father
IP Daniel Kew
My father is a Taxi driver. He is a very optimistic person and has never had difficult requirements towards his five children. I would consider him a father who loves his children.
My relationship with my father begun to distance after I graduated from secondary school. As I went out to the society to work, I associated with the wrong people and got hooked onto drugs. I had few meaningful conversations with my father, and our relationship became even colder after a few times of me going in and out of jail.
When I think back, I realize that my father actually loves me a lot. He once told me, “My child, it is up to you to live whatever life you want but the doors if our house will always be open to you.” It is only when I have become a father myself that I can fully appreciate what he meant. No matter how astray a child gets, a father will always be willing to accept his child with open arms.
In the past, the thought of marriage, much less being a father, was never something I thought about. Furthermore, I felt like bringing up children was a troublesome task. But when I became a father, I realized that even feeding my child brings a sense of bliss to me. When I see the look of content on their faces, I feel a sense of contentment.
Because I have been in and out of jail many times in the past, I thought I was already a person whose life was set in stone. In the face of anything, I did not need to think too much nor worry. But when my younger daughter was deemed by the doctors to be a cripple for life, I thought about what it would be like to have to push her around in a wheelchair all the time. Would I be able to make some better arrangements for her? This was when I started to think about her future. It was only after I became a father that I realized that a father would never stand idly by while his child faces a problem. He will actively look for solutions. I used to think that being a father is a troublesome thing. Now that God has completely changed my mindset, I know that God will make a way even when there seems to be no way. So now I am in Christ and I am a very light-hearted father!